Life just happens to some people. Others take the reins and make life happen for them.
There have been times in my life where I have grabbed the reins in both hands, held them as tight as possible and screwed myself big time. Then there have also been times when I have let life lead me- and still got screwed.
I have come to the conclusion that neither of those are very good options.
So far the best option seems to be begging and pleading God for divine intervention.
I'll tell you how that turns out.